3/15/2011 1:54 PM ET|
Shocking money drain? You can fix it
John Graves, a financial adviser to both women, says many of his older clients are besieged by their adult children. "Invariably, the money is never paid back," says Graves, of The Renaissance Group. He urges them not to disclose their assets, lest they be pressured into making such "loans."
Would you like debt with that?
Sometimes a financial drain is subtler. La Donna Bonner had two part-time jobs and three teenagers with extracurricular activities, so it was no wonder that money was tight. But she knew her money should have been going further than it was.
Two years ago, she decided to save her receipts for a few months. Adding them up, she got the shock of her life: She had been spending up to $150 every week on fast food.
"It was so easy to just take that Visa card and swipe," says Bonner, who lives in Marin City, Calif.
Burgers and burritos have become a thing of the past. Instead, Bonner plans her shopping carefully for healthy at-home eating, and pacs extra meals for her kids when they have after-school activities.
The money that Bonner is not spending on french fries now goes into three individual development accounts at EARN, a nonprofit that helps low-income workers move toward prosperity. These accounts will help her kids pay for college.
"We've replaced the money we spent on fast food for money on education," Bonner says.
According to EARN financial coach Saundra Davis, people often fail to link daily behavior with future goals. A dollar spent on fast food is a dollar that can't go toward debt repayment; money spent on a shopping spree can't go into a college fund.
"That's where the choice lies," Davis says.
Question every expense, advises Jeanette Pavini. For three years, she drove to her job in the San Francisco area, a stressful commute that cost $550 per month for parking.
Then one day it hit her: public transit. Pavini switched to paying $110 a month for a Caltrain GO Pass, saving thousands of dollars a year.
"It's something people don't think about because we're so used to driving," says Pavini, a household savings expert for Coupons.com. Read "The real reason you're broke" for more on the cost of owning a car.
'Why did you wait so long?'
Susan and her husband are now bankrupt and living cash-only, after following some bad advice from relatives: "Buying a home is always a wise investment" and "opening your own insurance office in a down economy is OK." In addition, she paid some start-up costs for the office with a credit card.
Her clients reduced or canceled insurance as the economy worsened. Her husband's hours on his construction job were cut by half. Susan believed they would somehow catch up, but finally they gave in and filed for bankruptcy in summer 2010. In bankruptcy court she was asked, "Why did you wait so long?"
Almost immediately, they began receiving credit card offers. But Susan vows they will never use plastic again.
"Living on credit and beyond one's means is not worth it," she says.
Most financial problems, even longstanding ones, can be fixed. But they must first be acknowledged. And that means tracking your spending. Financial management sites such as Mint.com and Bundle make budgeting simple.
Obviously you'll want to reduce expenses wherever possible. But you need a plan. What do you want your money to do for you? Where do you want to be in one, five or 10 years? Write down the answers to these questions. Then look for help.
Hit the library for personal finance books by reputable authors, such as MSN Money's Liz Weston. Ask about financial education programs or classes at credit unions, nonprofits or community colleges.
You may be eligible for free financial coaching. Start by contacting 211.org to see whether the United Way in your area offers this service. Other potential sources for coaching are first-time-homebuyer programs, credit unions, housing advocacy groups, social service agencies, community development groups and other nonprofits. Ask, and keep asking.
The NFCC offers help with goal-setting and budgeting strategies. To find an NFCC counselor, call 1-800-388-2227 (for Spanish, 1-800-682-9832).
You may be more comfortable hiring someone to help you. Make sure your adviser is a "fiduciary," someone who has a duty to put your interests first.
Keep at it, even if you feel it's too late in the game to make a difference. Mark Paradis was 23 when he bought his first car. With no credit history and little financial education, he wound up with a six-year loan for a Kia Optima. Recently he used a site called MoneyAisle to refinance the last two years of the loan, saving $100 month.
"I was a little mad at myself that I hadn't done this sooner," says Paradis, a Boston resident. "But I'm saving myself $2,400 over the next two years." (Even better, compare car loans online first.)
You don't know what you don't know. But keep in mind that there's information out there if you're willing to seek it.
"There are awesome communities and resources (online)," says Suzanne Coblentz of CareOne. "Every single day is an opportunity to start again."
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If you are running up credit cards then you are living beyond your means. Credit cards should only be used for convienience and rewards. Maybe and occasional cash flow issue for food. If you cant afford it, don't buy it. What are these people going to do if the economy really gets bad ? Start saving, stockpiling food and giving consideration to how you are going to protect your families in the long run. Vacations ! I dont think so. A vacation should never be charged ?
Attention : You are not entitled to anything and never will be. Drive a beater car - no one should buy a new car if they have to finance it - just puts you further in the hole.
Wake up everyone - this isnt going to be good
My husband and i were in this same spot back in May 2007, and we made a decision to change things for the better and not let it happen again. By that next November, we had paid off major debt, including our vehicles.
The first step was to start the "Brown Bag Challenge" hosted by Donna Freedman, on the Smart Spending message boards that sadly don't exist any more.
It's a real shame that the boards are gone, because when I lost my husband in may 2010, the information on the boards and the support I received from the other posters was very valuable to me and kept me from falling into the abyss and making major money mistakes.
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