What's a mom's work worth?

Why is this "Mom's" work?  Why is it assumed Mom does all this?  My husband is the homemaker - has been since before we were married - and so also had primary day-to-day responsibility for our daughter.  If both parents work, these are both Mom's and Dad's work, and sometimes this is primarily Dad's work.  Please let's stop the sexism and allow and encourage families to find and value the roles that suit their situation best.  These are joint responsibilities and opportunities in a two-parent household, and the "responsibility" should not automatically fall to one parent or the other because of sex.

And when these jobs are performed with love for the family, they are priceless.  No nanny or housekeeper or cook does their work with the love that Dad or Mom should bring to their home.

"Men are essentially fungible, meaning you can always get another one."

I was somewhat agreeing with this article until I read this.  I cannot get another husband like the one I have now and I don't want too.  He is a wonderful Daddy, great husband and provider and pretty damn good in bed.  We need each other to make our family work. 

Even though I'm the one who stays home, I mow the yard, trim the weeds and bushes.  My hubby cleans up dishes after mealtimes and spends quality time with our kids because he wants to and at times, because Mommy really needs a break.  It is a give and take.  Kids benefit from both parents and to downplay the role of one is just wrong. 

I have a full-time job outside the home, my husband has two jobs (a full and part-time), and so most of the cooking, cleaning, and laundry is up to me (with help from the kids).  My husband helps with chores on the weekends.  I also volunteer for the kids' schools, sports (team mom), help with the homework, am taxi cab, etc. 

BUT my husband is just as important in the home as I am.  We have three boys at home who need their father's influence, and a daughter who needs time with her daddy.  My husband comes in most nights around 9:00 and he is the story reader for our daughter and is there for prayers and tucking her in.  He makes sure that he is at all the boys' sporting events he can be (his part-time job in the evenings is flexible), he makes time with all the kids on Sunday afternoon (movies, walks, etc).

I know single moms who are very good parents and their children are being brought up to be respectful, caring young men and women, but the role of the father in the home is very important, and shouldn't be taken for granted.

I am a SAHM and worked until I was 43. We finally had our little miracle and as a COUPLE decided to have me stop work to stay home with our son. We sacrificed ALOT to make this happen, because we knew we were making the right decision for US. These articles bother me, because they make broad sweeping statements about someone's "worth". Its not about individuals anymore once you have a child, its about the FAMILY. Yes, I cook, I clean, I get groceries, I manage our finances and educate my child on everything from manners, to his ABC's. However my husband works hard too. He does his job then comes home and gives me a break and spends time with our son. He does projects with our little guy, fixes things around the house and keeps the HOA happy by making sure our yard is weed free and the plants trimmed. He also takes the time to thank me for what I do. I am one lucky woman!

Do I miss working outside the home? Sometimes. I miss the interaction with other adults. I miss being able to sleep in past 530AM, when my son wakes up. I miss the paycheck for sure! However I would also miss that 530am wakeup call. I would miss my son coming up to me randomly during the day and giving me a huge hug and kiss and telling me I love you mommy. I can still interact with other adults, just the topic of conversation revolves more around our kids and coupons than how to troubleshoot a missile or what the rework is needed on a specific component.

its not rocket science people. Its just common sense. Sacrifices are made both by husbands and wives, SAHM's and working mothers. We do it to make our families lives better. YES there are those who are neglectful of their families. However for every one "bad" wife or husband, there are hundreds who do the best they can. I wish the media would stop trying to stirr up stuff and let us just get back to raising our families, one day at a time, and making wonderful memories along the way.