Do you spoil your kid?

Rather than buying their kids "stuff," parents should learn that what their kids really want is quality time with them. When I was young, my father worked second shift on a rotating schedule, so sometimes I would got a week without seeing him. When he was off, it didn't matter what we did, as long as he would spend time with me. Sometimes all we did was go for ice cream and talked. That was what was important! And that is what seems to be missing now!

When ever my 6yo expresses that she is not satisfied with what she has been abundantly provided with, I found that a trash bag and a trip through her room for "boring stuff" is usually just the shot of humility she needs to gain perspective. Especially when bagged items make it to the local donation station and are then given to a child that will appreciate them. 

Addtionally, she has learned that it all can be gone in an instant. The fires in Colo Springs proved that to her in a very real way. Seeing it on the news and having family in the area, she realizied that all her toys would be gone if a fire took our house, and she wanted to donate some of her toys to the relief fund. (How cute). I also explaned that our posessions could be gone tomarrow, but as long as we have eachother its OK.

This an epidemic - when are these "parents" going to wake up?  Not only are they creating really unlikeable jerks they are raising helpless adults who cannot budget, let alone perform basic tasks such as laundry, cooking or simple home repairs. 

As human beings, our only entitlements are life, liberty and the PURSUIT of happiness.  The rest is up to us.

I see this behavior all the time in the grocery store, WalMart, you name it.  Then lately there has been a commercial where the kid whines all throughout the store saying PLLLLLLLEEEEEAAAASSS​E.  The Mom gives in. She loook relieved when the kid finally shuts up. How sad that now it is even an ad on tv promoting this behavior. 

It is sad that we have given in so many times to children.  The effect is terrifying.  In my job as an apartment manager I see the effects of this so much. Recently I had an incident where one of these 20 somethings literally destroyed his apartment and broke a window in another in a drunken rage. After all was said and done the next morning I called him to the office and asked him to tell me why I should not start eviction proceedings immediately,etc.  His answer-"because I am a good kid and I deserve to stay"  My answer-Here is your eviction notice, because I don't rent apartments to "kids" I rent to adults.  You are 24 years old and not a kid.  You want to play in the adult playground you have to play by the adult rules. When you signed the lease agreement you signed as an adult.  You represented yourself as an adult or legal age. Just because you are a "kid" does not mean that you get everything handed to you and bad behavior is rewarded."  He moved out the next day to an apartment across the street.  Similar incident happened there and he is now looking for another apartment to live in where they accept "kids"