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For the first six years of our marriage, my husband and I lived paycheck to paycheck. And for six years, we loathed the cycle. We wanted to get a handle on our spending and start saving some money. So time and again we would start a budget, and time and again it would fail. We began each attempt with enthusiasm, but we always quit soon thereafter in exasperation.

Sound familiar? You know budgeting is supposed to be good for your finances, but you just can't seem to make it work.

Don't give up. If you're having trouble making ends meet -- and even more trouble sticking to a budget -- you may need to tweak your approach. There's no one-size-fits-all method of budgeting. The trick is to craft a plan that helps you make sense of your spending and save for the things that are important to you.

I'm happy to say that I've been a successful budgeter for many years now. Here are eight common problems that plague would-be budgeters and how to overcome them:

1. You have the wrong impression. What you may need before you even get started is an attitude adjustment. Budgets aren't straitjackets to keep you from spending your hard-earned money. Rather, they are the key to financial freedom, ensuring you have enough money to spend on what you want.

The B-word itself can be such a bummer that some financial pros refer to a budget as a "spending plan." Call it whatever you like, but knowing how much money you have and where it's going is liberating. No more stressing over the unknown! No more bank-statement surprises! You are in control of your finances, not the other way around.

2. You've been trying to fit into someone else's shoes. You know that scene in "Cinderella" when the stepsisters try to cram their feet into the impossibly tiny glass slipper? Trying to squeeze your spending personality into someone else's spending plan could hurt just as badly. Just as there's more than one shoe size, there's more than one way to budget. If one method doesn't work, try another until you find the right fit.

Your style may be old-fashioned, such as jotting down purchases in a notebook or buying things strictly with cash to eliminate the possibility of overspending. Or you might take a more modern approach with computer software or budgeting websites.

3. You're making this harder than it needs to be. The key to a successful budget is to keep it simple. Don't get me wrong: Building and maintaining a budget requires effort. But take it one step at a time. You're not going to overhaul a lifetime of spending habits in one weekend. Focus on one area where you can cut back. Once you've successfully tackled that issue, you can move on to another.

4. Your budget is too rigid. You need to build in flexibility, or your plan will break under pressure. Give yourself some breathing room -- to make mistakes, to treat yourself and to make adjustments as your life situation changes or as prices rise. For instance, what if your car insurance rate goes up, gas prices climb or your rent rises?

If you simply don't have the money for flexibility, look for ways to bring in more.