Trying to restore your privacy is like playing Whack-a-Mole, if the carnival game had more than 100 holes instead of a handful. The Privacy Rights Clearinghouse has a list of more than 140 data brokers, including whether they have an opt-out option (many don't) and a link to that option, if available.

"They all have different rules" about getting your information suppressed from their online databases, Stephens said. Some make opting out easy, while others (like ZabaSearch) require you to send your ID.

"People are rightfully reluctant to do that," Stephens said, since driver's license numbers can be used in identity theft. (I redacted mine with a piece of blue tape.)

Even if people jump through the right hoops, their data might not stay suppressed for long. Every time the data broker buys a new marketing list or scours public records, your listing could reappear.

"It can very well end up an exercise in futility," Stephens said. "When the information is refreshed, you reappear. Or they might use variations of your name or your address which would cause it to appear as a different entity."

Why isn't Congress doing something about this, you might ask? A bipartisan group called the Privacy Caucus has sent letters to some of the biggest data brokers, including Experian and Intelius, asking about how they collect their information and their opt-out options.

That could result in some rules allowing people to view for free their own information and to correct errors, Stephens said. Data brokers could be required to offer an opt-out.

Since much of the information is available from public records, however, any effort to ban its publication would appear to violate the data brokers' and data retailers' First Amendment rights, Stephens noted.

Some regulation "is inevitable," said Reputation.com's Fertik. "I think it would be good for Americans . . . I believe your data is your data."

Intelius' Adler is less sanguine. "Legislation is a very blunt instrument," he noted. "There's always the risk of unintended consequences."

Because I don't have time to whack dozens of moles, I hired Reputation.com to whack them for me -- and its rival Abine's DeleteMe to whack them for my husband. I also signed up for MailStopShield, a service of Catalog Choice that focuses on getting your name off marketing databases. (For a couple of years now, I've subscribed to a freeCatalog Choice service that helps get rid of unwanted catalogs, coupons and other junk mail, and it seems to work pretty well.)

It's early yet, but I've noticed we're starting to disappear from some of the bigger databases such as Spokeo, WhitePages and, yes, even ZabaSearch.

Not all databases will work directly with Reputation.com or Abine. Some sites required me to contact them personally. A few required me to fax or upload my ID; others simply required me to select the record I wanted suppressed. Response times vary as well; some remove the information within a few days, while others take weeks or even months.

Here's the thing. Not everybody can or wants to pay $233 a year ($99 a year each for Reputation.com and DeleteMe, plus $35 for MailStopShield) for what is, at best, only partial protection.

"There's no one entity that can get you off all the databases," Stephens said. "Some of them simply don't offer an opt-out."

If we stop subscribing, the companies stop monitoring the databases for us, and our information could pop right back up.

If the whole situation irritates you as much as it does me, you might want to take a minute and let your lawmakers know how you feel. You can use this database to identify and contact them. (Yes, I see the irony of using one database to complain about others, but at least you're not trying to make a buck off the information.)

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