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Even if we could go back and give our 22-year-old selves advice, it would have done no good.
I have found out that you can't tell anybody anything.
We all have to learn for ourselves.
"What would you tell your 22-year-old-self"? is a question as useless and meaningless as, say, "What two universes would you simultaneously live in?" The reality in which these questions are asked does not permit a non-frivolous answer to either of them.
What IS sensible is to hope that a person has at a young age--at 22 years, if you like--the experience, perhaps a single event (often extremely traumatic)--that causes that person to intend to live their life with one and only one goal: Live With No Regrets. If one has the good fortune to have the searing insight and commitment to live their life thusly (and it will be fortune, a turn of the existential cards, not someone telling them), a single life goal of No Regrets will tease out for the rest of life all that THAT person needs to say and do, and to not say and to not do. It will be an inner voice without price, with no ability to be wrong. In the most meaningful sense, failure will not be possible for that person.
Researchers have determined that of the elderly who are approaching death, for those of them who express regrets there are a recurring top 5 regrets. Number 5 is regret for not allowing themselves more happiness. Number 4 - regret they did not stay in better touch with friends and family. Number 3 - regret for not being more candid and expressive with those around them. Number 2 - regret for the time on their clock and the time in their mind devoted to money. And the number 1 regret: Regret that they didn't have the courage to be the person they should have been; but rather became what they were told to be, what they were expected to be, what others wanted them to be.
Anyone who adopts, at 22 (say), the serious intention to do one and only one thing with their life or to die trying--to Live With No Regrets--they will find as they turn to face their final evening that they did everything they were supposed to do and needed to do and really wanted to do. They have no regrets.
Now, is that running the table or what?
Also, "alternative healer" is another name for snake oil salesman, or bullsh!t artist, if you will. He just repackages Buddhism with one hell of a markup on the price.
I guess I'd say don't worry so much about what everyone else has/is doing, concentrate on your own life and what brings you joy. So many look at others any say they make more money than me, or she always comes in late and nobody says anything to her; or they always spend too much on clothes for their kids...who cares. Pay attention to what you do for you, not what anyone else does for themselves.
Who knew that being a career liar and a thief would someday lead Obama to being the president of the United States of America?
I find myself saying that often "if I could go back & do things different". Try to tell your children your mistakes so they don't repeat them but they don't want to listen.
Fine. Let them make the same stupid mistakes.
What I want to know is why some people get all the crappy luck & other people seem to float thru life on a cloud of pure luck.
Marry someone you respect, not someone you pity.
Take a career self assessment test on your 16 year b-day. Set the course. Work hard.
Give to charity, but don't volunteer. People always want more of your time than you are willing to give - put that extra energy into you and your family.
*** Democrat Calls Democrats Clueless ***
James Carville, Democrat consultant and former Bill Clinton campaign manager, has astonishingly come out and said something that Republicans have known for decades. That is, 80% of the people who call themselves Democrats don't have clue as to political reality. Carville goes on to compare the Democrat constituency to a herd of cattle. Put out a little fear here and there and you can get them to vote any way you want. THEY ARE BASICALLY DUMB & LAZY. "The reason I became a Democratic operative instead of a Republican was because there were more DEMOCRATS THAT DIDN'T HAVE A CLUE than there were Republicans," said Carville...
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