This guy spent $45,000 on a marriage proposal

Some men are lavishing thousands on popping the question, which now can include an 'engagement honeymoon' and more.

By Aimee Picchi Mar 21, 2013 2:02PM

Image: Wedding ring (© Jamie Grill/Photolibrary/Photolibrary)It's enough to make the average $28,427 wedding bill appear anemic.

Josh Ogle, who runs an advertising company called Fresh Spin Ads, wrote on Reddit that he recently spent $45,000 in popping the question to girlfriend Nataliya Lavryshyn, including a $21,000 custom-made ring and a $13,000 "engagement honeymoon" to Greece and France.

His reason? "I really wanted her to be wowed and to have a story to tell, something that starts off our official time together and to be able to tell our kids," Ogle told the New York Post.

Ogle also hired a Pulitzer Prize-winning photographer, spent $3,500 on a "proposal planner" and paid for a professional story writer, according to the Post. (His girlfriend said yes, by the way.)

While Ogle is an extreme example of the trend, more men are spending big bucks while on bended knee, not content any longer for a simple dinner-and-a-question proposal. 

Sarah Pease at Brilliant Event Planning, who planned Ogle's proposal, told the Post she now spends more time planning proposals than weddings. Men "usually have a budget of about $5,000 all the way up to $50,000," she said. 

It's also de rigueur these days to videotape your proposal, especially if it involves elaborate choreography, with some posted to video sites and going viral. 

Not everyone thinks the money is well spent, however. Ogle said he wrote the "ask me anything" entry on Reddit in an effort to defend himself. "Largely because of the tone of the articles/interview, the vitriol in the comments on their websites is astounding," Ogle wrote on Reddit. "If I spent that much on a proposal it must mean that my penis is very small, I'm a 'trust fund' kid, I lack any semblance of frugality, or that I'm 'stupid.'"

He said none of those charges are true. But if Ogle was hoping for a pat on the back from Reddit readers, he was likely disappointed. 

"It is not that people are upset with you, it has to do with the large number of people unemployed that see $45,000 dollars as a game changer for them," one reader wrote. 

Another pointed out: "I have no sympathy for you, you don't need any. The media is not particularly misrepresenting you. There's a lot of folks who have real media troubles. You aren't one."

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Mar 21, 2013 2:48PM
hoestly.. a stupid article.. he obviously makes way more money than the average working class.. of course if you got the money to spend and you think shes worth it, why not.  If you don't, you just wow them in another way.. If they are worth it, they are just excited you proposed.
Mar 21, 2013 3:50PM
Well, it does seem a bit over the top, but then I am  very conservative  and could never see doing anything like this even if I could afford it. However, it's his money to do with as he pleases, and it's nice that he wanted to "wow" her. I wish them the best.
Mar 21, 2013 3:39PM

I hate when people do things like this.  It's like spending five grand on a purse or twenty grand on a dress.  I know it's their money.  I know they can do what they want with it.  But there is a vulgarity in it I don't admire at all.  There are people starving in this world. Starving.  Children dying of preventable disases that a fraction of this money could help. 


It's money spent well beyond any intrinsic worth of the product, which means it is money spent to feed ego and self aggrandizement.  THAT'S why people hate it.  And they should.  One only hopes people like this come on really hard times and realize what foolishness this was.


Mar 21, 2013 6:54PM

Hubby hardly spent anything on his proposal, but I'll still never forget it. lol.  I got proposed to... in a minivan.


Hubby had planned on proposing Valentine's weekend and had the whole day planned. He woke me up before dawn and took me to the beach to watch the sun rise. What he wasn't counting on was the weather. Even in Florida, it can get cold in February, and it dropped into the 40s that morning. I was FREEZING! Afterward, he warmed me up in front of a roaring fire at Cracker Barrel for breakfast. Then, he drove me to where I went to college. We dated all through my time there, and he thought it would be fun to relive the memories. We went to the same theater we used to see movies in back then, and then went for a walk down one of our favorite streets and just people watched for a while. We went to the old bookstore I used to study at and read comic books, trying not to giggle too loudly.


Ultimately, it all ended back at the beach. Hubby had planned a romantic proposal on the beach at sunset. But the temperature dropped again and I refused to get out of the van to walk up and down a freezing cold windy beach. So he popped the question right there in the front seat and presented me with a ring he hadn't spent a dime on... it was my grandmother's! I was so thrilled to have received that ring. I'd rather have it than anything from Tiffany's!


Obviously, I accepted, and we've been happily married over 5 years with baby #1 due this year. Proof that you don't need to spend a boatload of money to have a great proposal story to tell!

Mar 21, 2013 3:01PM
Add that $45,000 to the price of a drawn out divorce, alimony, child support, and all his assets.  After the divorce, he will be lucky if he can afford a studio apartment and a 20 year old car.  What a moron!
Mar 21, 2013 2:42PM
I will PEE on my self if he ever gets divorce, and I bet you my left eye that you guys would not even mention it here, so why in the heck you post this in the first place. to make regular normal 45K a year making people like me feel bad because I was ingaged to my wife on a mexican restaurant and got maried on the beach in Key West . SKREEWW U MSN.
Mar 21, 2013 3:40PM
how about spending 5,000 on the proposal and donating the 40,000 to charity?
Mar 21, 2013 5:40PM
He wowed me... seems like he is just showing off. Bragging to the world. No one cares how much you have to spend to get laid dude. 
Mar 21, 2013 7:09PM

Why does he have to tell the world about this? Who care? Doesn't he know when he is out of money, his fiance will bye bye him for sure. I have been married for almost 30 years. I wowed my husband and married him because of his answer to one of my three questions " Monday to Friday I go to work, Week-end go to church and I am a volunteer  to take care of handicapped children.".

This is a WOW to me. My husband is the most wonderful , kind, generous, loving,understanding, supportive.... Words can't describe all. To me he is the richest man in the world . He is rich in kindness, love, generosity, not in money. I would not trade my husband for zillions of dollars.

Mar 21, 2013 7:22PM

it sucks that you have to spend thousands to show someone you love them!


Mar 21, 2013 4:37PM
Man....I should have married a man who had 45k lying around to shell out for the proposal....imagine the WEDDING!  Jeez.....I wish I was more of a gold digger and less purely driven by physical attraction :) 
Mar 21, 2013 3:59PM
Try showing the ratio of what he spent to his income; it might show that the average guy spending $100 on a fancy dinner is actually being just as extravagant as this rich ****.  Here's another damn reason for guys to feel inadequate for for girls to raise expectations, which for Americans is already off the charts when it comes to marriage-related issues.
Mar 21, 2013 6:33PM

I seriously cannot even comment on something this stupid....If not already said,,,,,???


I really doubt that the marriage will last 3 years...!!!

Mar 21, 2013 6:06PM
If he is smart he will also ask for a solid PRE NUP. 
Mar 21, 2013 5:35PM
Some people that make a lot of money are really stupid.
Mar 21, 2013 4:47PM
It is written in the Bible that for a rich man to enter the gates of heaven is like trying to fit a camel through the eye of a needle. So keep flauting your wealth while children starve. Let's see if God notices.
Mar 21, 2013 7:54PM
When he publicly post how much he spent, I am not sure if he is trying to impress her, the general public, or just himself.
Mar 21, 2013 6:39PM

Well......Ladya08...Get your wedding Dress on...WE ALL HEARD YOU..!!


But much better to start off humble, and make it a good marriage first, spending can always come later.

There's always plenty of time...First you have to learn to love each other.

MOST people really are not totally in Love when they marry...IMO or ours.


We have been working on it for almost 50 years...Woooohooooo ! What a ride.

And I still buy her Roses, and pick her some flowers...

Mar 21, 2013 6:42PM
Men....they always throw it in your face how much you cost them, every fight. LOL 
Mar 22, 2013 1:50AM
I'm totally in the club of "it's his money and he can do as he pleases with it", but I don't understand why you would want to do this.  What is the point?  My husband simply proposed- it was just the two of us.  He had some lovely words and a ring and it was wonderful and made me cry.  
If someone spent this ridiculous amount of money on the proposal and felt the need to brag about it publicly, I would say no. period. 
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