This guy spent $45,000 on a marriage proposal
Some men are lavishing thousands on popping the question, which now can include an 'engagement honeymoon' and more.
It's enough to make the average $28,427 wedding bill appear anemic.
Josh Ogle, who runs an advertising company called Fresh Spin Ads, wrote on Reddit that he recently spent $45,000 in popping the question to girlfriend Nataliya Lavryshyn, including a $21,000 custom-made ring and a $13,000 "engagement honeymoon" to Greece and France.
His reason? "I really wanted her to be wowed and to have a story to tell, something that starts off our official time together and to be able to tell our kids," Ogle told the New York Post.
Ogle also hired a Pulitzer Prize-winning photographer, spent $3,500 on a "proposal planner" and paid for a professional story writer, according to the Post. (His girlfriend said yes, by the way.)
While Ogle is an extreme example of the trend, more men are spending big bucks while on bended knee, not content any longer for a simple dinner-and-a-question proposal.
Sarah Pease at Brilliant Event Planning, who planned Ogle's proposal, told the Post she now spends more time planning proposals than weddings. Men "usually have a budget of about $5,000 all the way up to $50,000," she said.
It's also de rigueur these days to videotape your proposal, especially if it involves elaborate choreography, with some posted to video sites and going viral.
Not everyone thinks the money is well spent, however. Ogle said he wrote the "ask me anything" entry on Reddit in an effort to defend himself. "Largely because of the tone of the articles/interview, the vitriol in the comments on their websites is astounding," Ogle wrote on Reddit. "If I spent that much on a proposal it must mean that my penis is very small, I'm a 'trust fund' kid, I lack any semblance of frugality, or that I'm 'stupid.'"
He said none of those charges are true. But if Ogle was hoping for a pat on the back from Reddit readers, he was likely disappointed.
"It is not that people are upset with you, it has to do with the large number of people unemployed that see $45,000 dollars as a game changer for them," one reader wrote.
Another pointed out: "I have no sympathy for you, you don't need any. The media is not particularly misrepresenting you. There's a lot of folks who have real media troubles. You aren't one."
I hate when people do things like this. It's like spending five grand on a purse or twenty grand on a dress. I know it's their money. I know they can do what they want with it. But there is a vulgarity in it I don't admire at all. There are people starving in this world. Starving. Children dying of preventable disases that a fraction of this money could help.
It's money spent well beyond any intrinsic worth of the product, which means it is money spent to feed ego and self aggrandizement. THAT'S why people hate it. And they should. One only hopes people like this come on really hard times and realize what foolishness this was.
Hubby hardly spent anything on his proposal, but I'll still never forget it. lol. I got proposed to... in a minivan.
Hubby had planned on proposing Valentine's weekend and had the whole day planned. He woke me up before dawn and took me to the beach to watch the sun rise. What he wasn't counting on was the weather. Even in Florida, it can get cold in February, and it dropped into the 40s that morning. I was FREEZING! Afterward, he warmed me up in front of a roaring fire at Cracker Barrel for breakfast. Then, he drove me to where I went to college. We dated all through my time there, and he thought it would be fun to relive the memories. We went to the same theater we used to see movies in back then, and then went for a walk down one of our favorite streets and just people watched for a while. We went to the old bookstore I used to study at and read comic books, trying not to giggle too loudly.
Ultimately, it all ended back at the beach. Hubby had planned a romantic proposal on the beach at sunset. But the temperature dropped again and I refused to get out of the van to walk up and down a freezing cold windy beach. So he popped the question right there in the front seat and presented me with a ring he hadn't spent a dime on... it was my grandmother's! I was so thrilled to have received that ring. I'd rather have it than anything from Tiffany's!
Obviously, I accepted, and we've been happily married over 5 years with baby #1 due this year. Proof that you don't need to spend a boatload of money to have a great proposal story to tell!
Why does he have to tell the world about this? Who care? Doesn't he know when he is out of money, his fiance will bye bye him for sure. I have been married for almost 30 years. I wowed my husband and married him because of his answer to one of my three questions " Monday to Friday I go to work, Week-end go to church and I am a volunteer to take care of handicapped children.".
This is a WOW to me. My husband is the most wonderful , kind, generous, loving,understanding, supportive.... Words can't describe all. To me he is the richest man in the world . He is rich in kindness, love, generosity, not in money. I would not trade my husband for zillions of dollars.
it sucks that you have to spend thousands to show someone you love them!
I seriously cannot even comment on something this stupid....If not already said,,,,,???
I really doubt that the marriage will last 3 years...!!!
Well......Ladya08...Get your wedding Dress on...WE ALL HEARD YOU..!!
But much better to start off humble, and make it a good marriage first, spending can always come later.
There's always plenty of time...First you have to learn to love each other.
MOST people really are not totally in Love when they marry...IMO or ours.
We have been working on it for almost 50 years...Woooohooooo ! What a ride.
And I still buy her Roses, and pick her some flowers...
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