When work bulldozes your personal life
A former Wall Street hotshot writes a moving essay about how her constant focus on work led her to sacrifice everything else.
But that life came crashing down in 2008, when she resigned weeks before Lehman declared bankruptcy. She spent a few months working at Credit Suisse (CS), Fortune reports, but then just seemed to vanish.
But this month, Callan published a moving essay in The New York Times explaining just what happened to her, and how her intense focus on work ruined so much of her personal life.
She didn't start out as a slave to work, she writes. "It crept in over time. Each year that went by, slight modifications became the new normal." She started doing a little email organizing on Sundays. That turned into a few hours on Sundays, and eventually all day.
She never had children -- perhaps because there was just no time. Her marriage ended. Work was her top priority above anything and anyone else.
"I did have relationships -- a spouse, friends and family -- and none of them got the best version of me," she wrote. "They got what was left over."
Now, at age 47, Callan has finally found the rest of her life. She remarried, and has tried for years to have a child with her husband through in vitro fertilization.
She said she would never wish her grueling, unbalanced approach to her career on anyone.
"I am beginning to realize that I sold myself short," she writes. "I was talented, intelligent and energetic. It didn’t have to be so extreme. Besides, there were diminishing returns to that kind of labor."
Her life story is a great lesson. Do we have to jump on email as soon as we wake up? Do we need to eat lunch at the desk? Callan said she was even flying to meetings in Europe on her birthday.
The financial crisis was exactly the wakeup Callan needed to discover what was missing in her life. Without that crisis, she writes, she might never have stepped off the gas pedal. "Perhaps I needed what felt at the time like some of the worst experiences in my life to come to a place where I could be grateful for the life I had," she said. "I had to learn to begin to appreciate what was left."
I have been through a similair experience. Was working and traveling alot. My record work week was 92.5hrs (+more not recorded). I would go to Europe and back in 36hrs.Never would ask for raise or compensation (young and fullish).
Finially I learned due to various changes that all my effort was for someone else's good.
Now I only put extra time (more than 40hrs a week, as agreed upon when hired) in on request. I watch others working the 12hrs plus days and listen to them complain and laugh to myself.
When companies lost there loyalty to employees I lost mine to the company. Every day look for better opportunites and a way to make more doing less in less time. Find it stomache wrenching to see unqualified people in elite positions with large pay while as an Engineer I am stuck in the trenches with pay thata person right out of high school could make in construction and other jobs.
This has gotten a whole lot worse then it was 30-40 years ago...
You kids need to slow down or ease up.....And really "Smell the Flowers" ocassionally.
You will realize it someday, Make sure it's not TOO LATE.
***edited for*** "Work Hard, but Play Hard too."
I work 60 hours a week on a job I love.It`s all about finding your nitch.I still have plenty
of time for fun.
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