8 issues that cause retirement rifts

Your dream is nonstop travel; your spouse wants to stay put. You'd like to quit now; she's not ready. Learn about issues that can cause a rift, and how to get on the same page.

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Mar 28, 2014 8:31PM
Mar 29, 2014 1:33AM

While 78% of Americans wish they lived somewhere other then where they are NOW..

So the article means WHAT!!

Apr 6, 2014 8:50PM
I'm single so there is no rift going on as to where to live.  Lost my job a year ago when the office closed and could no longer afford my home in highly taxed NJ.  Sold it and bought a honey of a mobile home down south dirt cheap.  It's a lot cheaper to live here and no snow.  Don't have much money on early SS, but I don't need much. 
Apr 6, 2014 3:38PM
Best sometimes not to move at all,if your close to your family it might be an asset,but on the other hand people that are happier get  away for there so called family and hide in the woods. Good luck
Apr 6, 2014 6:31PM
Sounds like the same old back and forth to me, so what is new? Does it never end?
Apr 6, 2014 8:46PM
Many of these issues you would've/should've encountered earlier in the marriage albeit if you enter retirement as a married couple. Shame on you if you haven't worked them out by now. Let's say you can't resolve the conflicts, then do as I've said before: "Get rid of the house and get rid of the spouse." 
Retirement shouldn't be about conflict it should be about a shared agenda. If your agenda's don't sync, you're sunk!
Happy Trails!

"I'll have a good time with you, and I'll have a good time without you." :)
Apr 6, 2014 3:11PM

Health causes retirement rifts?

What?  one partner wants to be healthy and the other wants to stay sick all the time?

Stupid msn article.

Apr 8, 2014 12:16AM
Heath dips? I moved to Florida and get plenty of Sunshine and Exercise. My Blood Pressure has dropped and I no longer take medications. My diet is healthier. I spend less time on the roads and plenty of time by the seashore and pool deck. When I retired at 53 I looked like 63. Five years later, I now look like 60. Those working years were very hard.

Apr 6, 2014 9:50PM
To me, the biggest issue for male retirees is seeing their aging wifes ever changing mood day in and day out.
May 13, 2014 12:11PM
I can see 2 of the issues mentioned coming into play with our retirement.  Hopefully, compromise will make retirement enjoyable for both of us without either of us being selfish about the available esources.
Apr 16, 2014 3:38AM
Honey, since Bush and the Republicans destroyed the economy last time around (house values down, employment down, stock market collapse, foreclosures, bankruptcies - all occurred during Bush's second term), I'm not voting Republican any more.

What!?  How can I be married to you?  I'd rather be poor and homeless than vote for someone who doesn't have "family values".   And I think the Democrats might all be gay too !  And I think they're all black criminals too !  I'd rather be bankrupt than vote for them !  Get out of my house !  Oh that's right, thanks to Bush we don't have a house any more !!!!

Apr 6, 2014 5:49PM
A retirement rift between my parents....who gets the life insurance my husband and I or each other when they die.  I'm trying to get them to get another policy.  Does anyone know if LifeAnt or accuquote is good? I'm going to have to pay and I don't want to spend too much.
Apr 5, 2014 9:51AM
Get rid of the retirement planner-financier. Cash out. Start right now learning how to live like you are poor or destitute. No matter what anyone thinks wealth will buy them, it won't any of us out of this mess we are in. 
Mar 31, 2014 10:04AM
My recommendation in retirement is: 'Get rid of the house and get rid of the spouse.' Still see each other if you wish but maintain separate residences and pursue your individual agendas.
Here's hoping you have a nag-free retirement!
Apr 6, 2014 3:39PM

Retirement Reality!  If you are a parent, guess what??  That job is ETERNAL - you will always have to contribute to the welfare and well being of your children, , , and your grand children.  Both in TIME and Money - no ands, , buts, , , or ifs!

Play golf, fishing, traveling, hobby???????  Gets expensive and boring VERY fast!!  Play with the SPOUSE?  HAH - in your dreams - you will have better luck getting "a secret affair" going!!!  

Reality - CASINOs get from retirees what little money is left after the children and grand children.

DON'T Retire, , , If you have been with the same employer for over 20 yrs, chances are you have at least 4 weeks vacation plus 12 paid holidays.  With a little creativity, you can realize 2 to 3 months of time-off during the year!   Why in hell would anyone need more time off than that??? 

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