Our kids and the allowance experiment
Our son is starting to understand that money represents time and effort.
For us, 2010 was a year of learning both for the parents and children in our household about what allowance means, how it works, and what kinds of money lessons our children are learning.
Let's roll back the clock to November 2009, when our children each received piggy banks and the allowance adventure got under way.
Our son received a Money Savvy Pig for his birthday. It has four slots:
- A "spend" slot (you can spend that on whatever you want).
- A "save" slot (you're saving up for a larger item).
- A "donate" slot (you're donating that money to a charity).
- An "invest" slot (you're going to invest that in the future).
In order to minimize sibling rivalry, we gave his younger sister a single-slot piggy bank.
We decided to try a weekly allowance for each child, giving them each two quarters for each year of their age. For the older child, we required that at least one quarter of his allowance go into each slot.
The allowance is not tied directly to chores, but we occasionally give them opportunities to earn a few extra quarters by helping with chores that were above and beyond the usual household expectations for them.
What did we learn after a year of this? Did our children learn anything about money?
The younger one is a saver! Each week, our daughter puts her quarters into her bank and then puts it back in the cabinet. We allow her to decide when and how to spend the money, but almost without fail she doesn't want to spend it on anything. She likes that her bank is getting heavy.
She has used her allowance only twice, both times on individual large toys, and neither time did it empty her bank. She doesn't have any specific savings goals and seems to mostly enjoy having lots of quarters in her bank, even though she understands she can use them for things she wants.
The older child often loses focus on savings goals. Our son has no problem with the actual saving process. His problem is that he gets heavily into saving for specific goals, but by the time his savings start to approach a goal, his interests have changed and he ends up having a new target. Thus, when he actually reaches a goal, it's usually for an item that he's just recently decided upon.
He typically does not use his "spend" slot for small things, as he prefers to be patient and use it as part of his "savings" slot. He has expressed a desire to give the money in his "donate" slot to Jump for Joel, but that hasn't occurred yet. The "invest" slot is going to eventually turn into a savings account at our local bank, perhaps around his sixth birthday.
Not using allowance as a form of punishment or leverage has worked well. We want to establish that the basic things we expect from them around the house -- like clearing the table after meals and basic politeness -- are not tied to any form of compensation. Such basic behavior is expected. Their allowance is merely a tool to teach simple money management.
Our children seem to respond better when no bribes are involved. Bribery works well the first time, but after that, would you really expect them to do that thing you want them to do without compensation?
The children anticipate allowance day. Typically, allowances are doled out on Sunday, and both of our children anticipate it. They'll often ask on Saturday if that day is "allowance day," and an allowance request is usually out there by noon on Sunday. It doesn't seem to be a money-grabbing thing. I think they just have fun putting the coins in their banks and then lifting them up to feel how heavy they are.
Our oldest child is starting to understand what prices mean. He now understands that things have different prices and different costs, and that you have to spend more of yourself in order to acquire a more expensive item. Spend more of yourself? When you spend money, you're really spending time and energy. In my son's case, it's time.
He doesn't always ask how much it will cost; he often asks how many weeks he will have to save to pay for the item. He has a basic understanding that money represents invested time and effort.
Understanding that changes your relationship with money. It makes the money less abstract than before and much more real. It eventually makes debt more frightening and good choices more appealing. Invested money, which earns interest, seems almost miraculous.
These are exactly the lessons we want them to learn from this allowance experiment. These are small, early steps, but they're all signs that they're heading down the right road, one that will put them in a place where they won't repeat the money mistakes of their father.
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